Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been

The sensational incongruity of â€Å"Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been? † passes on the tone of caution about allurement. Connie’s circumstance is that she doesn't feel acknowledged comfortable and utilizations her looks and activities to get consideration and thankfulness from young men regardless of whether it is present moment. She is hesitant about her looks and is continually stressed over how others see her. Friend’s dream is that Connie will readily go with him and be his â€Å"lover† (605) even before he authoritatively met her.The truth is that she wouldn't like to go with this bizarre man, yet is being constrained into it due to her dread, which makes her frail and accommodating. Connie is fifteen years of age and clearly hesitant on account of the affection that she never gets at home. Her entire life spins around consideration from young men since she doesn't feel adored comfortable. Her sister June has all the earmarks of being the most loved in the family, as she gets the entirety of the positive consideration. Connie's mom doesn’t talk merciful to Connie or about Connie, and Connie doesn't have a favorable opinion of her mom either.Her father does whatever he can to please Connie yet doesn’t look for a decent dad little girl relationship. They never talk about what's going on in their lives and go about as though they are just colleagues. Connie needs to seem more seasoned and more astute than she really is and her head is in every case loaded with unimportant fantasies to support her adapt. Her indiscrimination prompts fascination from young men and more established men where she gets panicked and understands that she isn't as adult as she thought.Connie encounters the harshreality of being constrained into adulthood at fifteen years old in view of the unique consideration of Arnold Friend. 2 Arnold Friend is a smooth talker and impacts the activities of his casualties. His assertion decision adva nces to adolescents as does his garments. He is a short and stocky person who stuffs his boots to cause him to appear to be taller and wears a cowhide coat to look youthful and attractive to adolescent young ladies. The way that his feet don't contact the base of his boots suggests the devil’s feet, huge in that he takes after the devil’s capacity to misdirect. Don’t sew in on me. Don’t hoard. Don’t smash. Don’t fledgling pooch. Don’t trail me† (608) are slang that he runs through on the grounds that he quickly overlooks what platitudes are mainstream so he accommodates by causing them to up all alone. He has a second when he separates before Connie and begins to lose his cool, quiet, and gathered character indicating his frenzy in perhaps not having the option to get his direction. This shows he is extremist and doesn't make due with whatever he doesn't affirm of.His principle center is around recovering young ladies for assaul t and murder and consistently goes for the consideration looking for characters to make it simpler to arrive at this objective. Companion is carrying on a dream, while Connie attests the truth. At the point when these universes blend, clearly Connie doesn't have control and Friend gets predominant. Friend’s interchange world is comprised of his craving to have â€Å"dates† and â€Å"lovers† (605) when in fact, he powers ladies to give him warmth by grabbing them, assaulting them, and afterward executing them.Friend’s mighty words show how he is trapped in this fantasy of what Connie will do with him and how impeccably it will all turn out to be at long last when truth be told, Connie has no aim of eagerly going with him. He consistently nags the way that he will get his direction since he demands that his fantasies are valid. Each time he discusses his dream, Connie has a strong proclamation pronouncing that she is happy to battle against his fantasy and 3 carry it down to a reality as she attempts to prevail upon him. Companion has the endowment of influence where his most noteworthy instruments for control are his words.He â€Å"promises† (607) that he won't hurt Connie as long as she doesn't finish what he thinks about undermining. Connie isolates her brain from her body since she abruptly loses control. She is accustomed to being on top and enabled however Friend tags along and dominates. The sensational incongruity, throughout their discussion, infers that Connie was in charge of the circumstance in any case, however Friend figured out how to acquire extreme control of the circumstance by having her surrender to his capacity. Current culture advances having a fabulous time and doing what feels great in the moment.Connie has poor correspondence with her family, appeared by her insubordinate conduct and absence of regard for her folks. She decides to separate herself from her family which brings about them not being there when she needs them the most. Guardians should be defenders and pioneers in their children’s lives and when these key angles are absent, a window is opened for the exploitation of youth. The outcomes of such circumstances bring about a dilemma like Connie’s and turns into a gigantic worry for the impacts that cutting edge culture has on youth. Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been â€Å"Where are you going, Where have you been:† The Media’s impact on youth In this 1966 short story composed by Joyce Carol Oates, fifteen-year-old Connie is a self-assimilated adolescent who invests her energy fantasizing about sentiment and looking for consideration from men. While out with an admirer, a peculiar man guarantees her, â€Å"I'm going to get you, baby† (2). Connie doesn't have a favorable opinion of the episode until one day while alone at home; the man comes to â€Å"get† her. The aggressor, Arnold Friend, is caring from the start at that point logically gets forceful and vicious towards her.Though from the start she appreciates Arnold’s consideration, when his requests become sexual and savage, her certainty lessens. While Connie endeavors to avoid Arnold’s orders, she gets feeble against the man and in the long run tails him to â€Å"go for a ride† (3). While â€Å"Where are you going, Where have you been,† appears to just be a lamentable tale about the kidnapping and assault of a little youngster, it is all the more critically an announcement of the time on the over-sexualization in the media.From the timespan the story was composed, the 1960’s, we realize that society in general was detonating with counter-culture and insubordination. In light of the Vietnam War, without precedent for history, music quickly turned out to be exceptionally persuasive and that of a sexual sort. This first flood of over-sexualized media is the thing that impacted Connie and a huge number of an opportunity to abuse their sexuality. The young people of the timeframe are generally thought of as being incredibly receptive to the world around them.With music being more interesting than before and youngsters being increasingly expressive and exploratory, Connie experienced childhood in a radically changing world complete with the should be sexual and to truly hang out so as to be taken note. Media turne d out to be more boundless and significant in the 60’s than it had ever been previously. At the point when the TV and radio weren’t concentrating on the war endeavors in Vietnam, they indicated the youth’s dissent, and push to â€Å"Make Love, Not War:† a notable expression that represents the push towards sexuality during that time.Connie, a juvenile of this dangerous period, is a prime case of sexualization in the media detrimentally affecting an individual. It is her should be wanted that makes her speaking to Arnold Friend, and prompts her end later in the story. Music is a significant topic in the story: Connie continually tunes in to music and partners music with delight in various occasions. At a certain point, she even says she â€Å"listened to the music that made everything so good† (2). Upon Arnold’s appearance we see that he is tuning in to a similar music as Connie, which fills in as an approach to associate them.Since music ass umes such a common job in Connie’s life, we can reason that music is the media that impacts her to act in a sexual way. From the music that she tunes in to, Bobby King, we get the feeling that she connects her concept of sentiment (that gets from the music she tunes in to) to the certainty and development she professes to have with regards to young men. Music plays in each circumstance where she means to be explicitly wanted; while out with young men, out with her companion scanning for consideration, while spreading out in her patio, and even toward the start of her discussion with Arnold.Music and Connie’s sexuality are inseparable tied togetherâ€once Connie gets alarmed of Arnold and is done misusing her sexuality, there is no further notice of music in the story. While it is comprehended that Arnold will probably hurt Connie, he likewise is whisking her away (or sparing her) from an ethically free societyâ€that exact same society that made her the over-sexual ized young lady we find in the start of the story.Everything about Connie shows that she has been associated into how the media figures a little youngster should beâ€from her interesting attire to her frantic endeavor to be explicitly attractive to the male populace. Regardless of what she leads on, Connie is quite guiltless. Her honesty is reverberated by her kid like naivety of opening her front way to a total outsider while alone, just as the dread that expends her while she could have been calling the police to forestall her murder.Arnold’s want for the youthful Connie might be Oates’ method of depicting how unreasonable the media’s ploy to sexualize America’s youth is also. The â€Å"Lolita Effect† is even a generally ongoing idea. A â€Å"lolita† is a little youngster who is seen in a sexual way, while the â€Å"lolita effect† isn't just the defilement of a kid by a grown-up, yet misusing a grown-up by a kid that has been deb ased by